Log in

01 April 2010 @ 06:56 pm
10 March 2010 @ 12:08 pm
26 February 2010 @ 01:50 pm
I was reading this article and I realised after not a very long space of time that I was more disgusted by this because it was an act committed by a woman. And that got me thinking. I think that this is sexism and I think it goes both ways.

The media portrays men in quite a negative light when it comes to sex. It portrays them as sexual predators with no control over themselves and their libidoes. I think this is totally unfair on men. For one, I don't think men have higher sex drives than women in the least. We think about sex, I think, and use our sexualities in very different ways but I wouldn't say that the average male wants sex any more than the average female. The belief that he does is something that has been programmed into us, especially as women. It's almost as though we're taught that men are only after one thing and women have to use this to 'ensnare' men. Yes, there is this attitude still, even in the twenty-first century, we just go about it in a very different way to how we did a century ago. There is still an attitude of a woman using her sexuality to reward and to punish, to a certain extent even amongst the Christian community. But let's not get me started on sex in the Christian community or I won't stop for three years. Suffice it to say that there is still an idea that sex is all about the woman giving and the man taking.

On the other hand, I also feel like this attitude on men being totally boorish and lacking in control is an excuse and that women who commit these crimes are considerably worse than the men because they 'should have known better'. They are inhuman monsters. A man is a pervert, a woman is - what is she? A devil? A demon? A witch? I've heard those words banded about before in cases like this. Surely a woman can be a pervert if a man can. A woman can have a tendency to lust after small children the same way a man can. A woman can have no scruples whatsoever about taking advantage of the situation. There are characteristics in human nature that make us want to take advantage at times.

In the Bible, when sex is portrayed as a negative thing, it is very much about power and destruction. Just look at David and Bathsheba. But when sex is as it should be, it's all give and take and a man and a woman's role is so completely equal. I think this is because it is on both sides about giving. Just look at Song of Songs. Yes, I know, that is in part an allegory of Christ and the Church. But it is written in a sexual nature for a good reason. Apart from anything else, it demonstrates the nature of how sex was created, of how it was supposed to be enjoyed. The lover and his beloved give one another pleasure, because they love one another.

I suppose what I'm trying to say here is that men and women are equal in sex. A woman who commits sins is no more or less in the wrong than a man. I don't imagine that more men commit atrocious acts like that I mentioned than women. I think, however, that they're less likely to be reported. It is something, though, that is beginning to get noticed more and more and people will have to acknowledge that some women, like some men, have perversions.

Actually, this just reminded me of something. I remember a year or so ago, seeing on Breakfast on the BBC something about a nursery that had deliberately employed a lot of young men because many small children don't have much male input (well, to be fair, it has been this way since time immemorial) but some of the parents were at first reluctant because they were fearful that the men would be paedophiles. WHY is it that when men spend time with children who they are not related to, they're seen as paedophiles? I realise that it's more acceptable for women to be interested in children because a) we have a maternal instinct and b) we tend to get gosh darn broody. But men like kids too! And the vast, vast, vast, vast majority of them not in a sexual way!

Let's just face it. Women like sex as much as men do. Men have as much control over their sexualities as women do. Some people, both male and female, do terrible things with their sexualities and use it in a horrendous way. It is not something that is exclusive to men or to women. If sex was the way that God intended for it to be, it would be all about giving and receiving equally, but we've messed up and it isn't.
Tags: ,
Current Music: Catatonia - Mulder and Scully | Powered by Last.fm
22 January 2010 @ 04:56 pm
I'm typing all these thoughts up here, because if I write them amongst my notes I will confuse myself when it comes to revision. I think these thoughts all come from the fact that the words used have very different meanings to they did.

Basically I am studying the concept of beauty and sublimity at the moment. I will not go into any great detail but I am reading Edmund Burke and he argues that beauty is something that inspires love and the love that it inspires is one that does not desire. Desire and love can go alongside, but they are not the same thing. Now, I realise that Burke is talking about sexual desire - he makes that explicit, but I was thinking about it and it occurred to me. Is it possible to find something beautiful, to love something, without wanting to possess it? I'm not talking about a member of the opposite sex. Or rather I can be, but I'm not talking in sexual terms.

The way I want to put it is thus: my friend and I have a joke amongst us that I have an adopted family, made up of people whom I adore but am not sexually attracted to. One of these people is David Tennant. I'm not attracted to him at all in that way (those of you who have known me for a long time will be aware that I've not always felt this way!) but I admire him as a man of beauty. As such, I would say that I do, in part, want to possess him. I think the kind of possession that I'm talking about is not a physical one as such, just a strange desire.

I'll rephrase. Sometimes I will see a particularly beautiful child and think to myself 'my word, if I have children, I hope they look like that'. If I'm particularly broody I will look at the child and think something along the lines of 'argh, must kidnap child now! MUST STEAL. MUSSSTTTTTTTTTT HAAAAAVEEEEE CHIIIIIIILLLLLLLLD'. That doesn't mean I'm actually going to try to possess the child but it's still a desire for that child.

We also radiate towards beautiful people and feel love for them. We find ourselves wishing to have them as friends. I think this is a desire for possession.

And when it comes to inanimate objects (which Burke also mentions), I most certainly desire them if I find them beautiful and feel the natural response that comes from it, love. A simplistic example is a painting of great beauty. I have beautiful paintings on my walls and this comes from a desire to possess those paintings. Even when I am in nature and see a particularly beautiful view, I feel a strange desire to possess that landscape, even though I know it's an impossibility. I don't just mean owning the land, I mean somehow taking hold of the view and physically storing it away somehow.

So love and desire are not the same thing, we know that. But I think it is possible to love something 'purely', without any sexual desire, and still want to possess it.

How about you? I am intrigued. I am also more than likely not making any sense to anybody other than myself!
Current Music: Simon & Garfunkel - The Boxer | Powered by Last.fm
18 January 2010 @ 04:21 pm
I'm not going to add anything to the myriad posts about Glee winning the Golden Globe. All I have to say is this.

Best looking cast ever :]
05 January 2010 @ 04:54 pm

Excuse my hideous face, I was not putting on make-up and sorting myself out just to go for a walk in the snow.

Also my feet were both bleeding like crazy by the time I got home.
01 January 2010 @ 05:10 pm
My one resolution for 2010 is not to drink any alcohol! Except, obviously, communion wine. Beyond that, none. Nada. Nilch. Nothing.
24 December 2009 @ 10:53 pm
The first time that You opened Your eyes,
did You realise that You would be my Saviour?
And the first breath that left Your lips,
did You know that it would change this world forever?
21 December 2009 @ 02:06 pm
The VLC media player wears a santa hat at Christmas!

And apparently the world's most handsome man is called Bruno Kettels, lmao.
17 December 2009 @ 01:50 am
My throat hurts so much, talking on the phone for three hours probably wasn't the appropriate remedy. Mehhhh.

The weekend at my sister's was much fun! I say weekend, we travelled down on Sunday and came back on Tuesday. So not really weekend. But anyway. I am greatly bruised because Henry is a WILD ANIMAL. He is gorgeous though and I am incapable of getting mad with him. Alex called up on Monday and stayed til today, I believe, and it was so weird and awesome seeing him. Mum burst into tears when she saw him. Missed him so much <3 It's a shame that, after Christmas, we won't see him til May at the earliest. Sigh. New Zealand is a darned long way away.

a couple of pictures of the lovely nephewsCollapse )

I kept forgetting to take out my camera hence the rubbishy mobile pictures. But they are adorable nonetheless. Henry took a load of pictures as well, mostly of his feet. He found it hilarious. That kid is insane. He also likes me A LOT. He's just like James. I don't know why I'm a such a nephew attractor. I'm not complaining or anything though, I love those boys so much.

Gah, this sore throat is killer. I think it's PMS. Which sounds odd. But I often get ill in different ways with PMS.